Thursday, November 18, 2010


I found this site through my aunt, who posted it on her Facebook wall. Birth or Not is a blog on which a married couple is letting the public decide whether or not they will get an abortion. On the site there is a polling box where you can cast your vote. They've set the poll ending to two days prior to the last possible day they can abort.

From what I can tell, these people are serious. A reference can be made to their post titled "We Meant What We Said," where Pete and Aisha state that they are not going to devalue the power of the vote, even though some people are voting for them to abort simply because they think it's funny.

I didn't find this all that disturbing at first. Even though I chose not to get an abortion, and I would never advise someone to get an abortion, I have no right to dictate how they make their decisions. Of course I cast my vote, and then started looking around. That's when I saw...

She's sixteen weeks pregnant. I know that doesn't sound like it's very far into the pregnancy but it's enough to get a good ultra-sound picture. They even gave it a tentative name! I just can't imagine leaving a baby's fate to the public after you've seen it. It's like casually agreeing that a perfectly healthy puppy should be shot while you're scratching it's ears, only there's more at stake.

I can't say I was happy when I found out I was pregnant. I can't say that pregnancy was a joy that I'll never forget, or that getting pregnant was the best thing that ever happened to me, and there were a lot of mornings where I'd wake up and hope it had all been some terribly long, drawn out nightmare. But when I went to have my 20 week ultrasound and I saw a little head and arms and legs, I knew that this was my baby and that I'd never want to give her up.

I just can't imagine...


  1. Well, I went and voted, and am taking comfort in the fact that the poll is now nearly 80% for giving birth. Can you imagine being that child as a teenager and finding your parents' old blog? Devastating.

  2. 16 months pregnant?

  3. Oh boy, that birthornot site rocked my world today. I believe every woman should be able to make her own choice and btw I applaud you for making yours and standing by it so bravely. But the birthornot people, they're letting the internet make their choice?! I feel for their baby. And for them.